Sleep! One of the most important aspects of staying balanced mentally, physically and spiritually. How many times have we talked to people who actually brag about getting very little sleep? And how well they handle life being nearly sleep deprived? If improving your quality of life is important to you, getting the right amount of sleep needs to be a priority.
In my life I have several of these pioneer’s of the sleepless,who claim sleep to be completely overrated. I have to laugh, quietly of course, because although they may think they are getting more done and handling things amazingly well, it is apparent to everyone around them that with their snappy attitude and inability to truly focus on the task at hand that they are not coping as well as they may think.
In order to stay clear and focused and to keep our emotions on an even playing field we must be sure to get at least eight hours a sleep . I am very regimented with my sleep schedule. I am very careful not to eat or drink anything that may inhibit my sleep patterns. I also do not workout in the evening as this too may cause my adrenalin to spike, and make it more difficult to get a full eight hours of uninterrupted sleep.
Mornings are very important to me, it is the best time to workout and meditate. I live by the adage “early to bed, early to rise”. In bed by 8:30 pm and up by 4:30 am to enjoy the peace and tranquility of the morning. Mornings are fresh, new and full of possibilities. Of course everyone has their own routine. However, no matter what that routine, getting the proper amount of sleep is the back bone to every healthy living regimen.
Yesterday was an amazing day. The sun shined and the temperature made it to 77 degree’s. Roger and I spent the day together relaxing and cooking out. We made a healthy meal of chicken and a fresh garden salad. It was a truly an amazing meal. Then around 6:30 pm everyone had the idea to get some ice cream. I haven’t had ice cream or any other type of un-natural sugar in almost four months, so I was conflicted. Should I indulge or should I not?
I did decide to have some ice cream even though I was a little scared that eating such things could possible send me back to my old self. However, I do know it’s different this time. I am not so regimented that I cannot enjoy a dish of ice cream now and again. Before starting my journey of self discovery I was able to stay faithful as long as I didn’t “cheat”. Once I allowed a certain food to enter my mouth it was all balls and overall’s. I would eat until I was sick and was unable to get myself back on track for months. AFter the damage was so overwhelming it was like starting over all over again. Not this time. This time is different. I am not working toward a “goal” per say, but more of a life long way of life.
This morning I was sitting here thinking of the power in Dream Boards. I have heard about them before, many times, but I must admit it seemed a little simple. I couldn’t see how it could work, so due to my skepticism I put it out of my mind. That was until last year when looking around the internet for a little project to do on a rather boring day, when I came across the topic of dream boards, and how great they worked. I thought, what the heck, I’m looking for something to do. Work or not, I could make it pretty, and hang it in my living room.
The picture I printed off the internet
I then started looking around for pictures I would like to add to my dream board. Basically anything that looked interesting, reflected me, or sparked a connection with me, I printed. I went to the store and bought one of those nice poster boards that come with the plastic covering and a frame. After all, I did plan on planting this thing in the main room of my apartment. One of several pictures I printed was this little red house with a For Sale sign in front of it. I had no interest in owning a house since I had been there, done that, and bought the T-shirt. It wasn’t a pleasant experience and I vowed that I would never own a house again. Our house was lost when my business went belly up back in 2009, so owning seemed out of the question . Never the less, I printed this picture and put it on my dream board anyway.
The house we actually bought six months later
Long story short, I made this dream board in April of last year, and not six months later we bought and moved into our new house that is amazingly similar to the house I printed off the internet. I actually didn’t realize it until we were moving in and I was hanging my dream board in my new bedroom. It shocked me. The hairs on the back of my neck rose. Either the dream board helped to manifest this house or my intuition knew that we would be buying this house. Either way it was totally awesome.
I am, now, a big believer in dream boards, and have since retired my first dream board and started a new. The second one is not at all about physical possession, but more about creating balance in my life. Letting my worries go and living with the belief that life will unfold with in divine order especially for me as long as I relax and surrender. It’s all about keeping a clear mind so I can hear my intuition. I listen, and follow now. It has made life so much more simple. Allowing life’s little snags to work out without my hand has brought about a magnificent amount of peace and contentedness I have always longed for.
My second was constructed and displayed in November of last year, and on January 2nd my life started to change. Books perfect for me started to be revealed to me. I began reading and writing. I began to grow spiritually. I have never felt closer to God in my life. I was able to take a life that was completely out of control with food addictions and become so much more balanced. I feel normal. I have dropped nearly three sizes in less than four months. I cannot express the most beautiful change in my life. I strongly suggest that whatever your hearts desire, find a way to express it through the use of a dream board. I love mine and add to it frequently.
Being married to a musician I have done my fair share of partying. I would drink to get drunk and just to make myself clear I had a great time while doing it. I have no regrets. Rog would be on stage pounding away at the drums and I would work the crowd, get them up dancing, hooting and hollering. As I grew older, though, drinking and partying lost its luster. It became less and less fun, and waking up the next day was a nightmare. Shoot, there were times it would take me two days to get over one night of drinking. So, I decided to quit. Not only because of the pain it caused, but because I wanted to have clear mind. I wanted to be able to make good decisions and drinking did not enable me to do that. Alcohol, for me, was also a trigger for food cravings that were killing me slowly. I knew that if I ever wanted to get my weight under control and live a healthy energetic life it would have to go.
At this stage in my life I just don’t feel like I need it. I have never been the type that had to drink to get the courage to get out on the dance floor, anyway. I’ll dance, anywhere, anytime. I love it and find it quite easy to tap into my inner drunk girl and let loose anytime, without the after effects of the alcohol. You know, that horrible depressed feeling you get the next day on top of the nausea, vomiting and lethargy. Sounds like loads of fun….. Not!
I have been alcohol free since before New Years, about four months now. Roger and I still go out and I still dance. By myself if need be. But, there is a point to all of this ranting. Since finding out that I no longer drink my “friends” no longer ask me out. I suppose I should be happy about this since it was obviously not the real me that they wanted to hang out with anyway. I guess drunk Michele was just more appealing. I do understand this because I also know a few people that are much more appealing after I am drunk too. 😉 I don’t know, maybe it is simply uncomfortable to be sloppy drunk in front of a sober person. I’m not really sure. However, it’s all good. I have never needed anyone else to make my good time. I AM my good time.
The other day while watching Dr. Phil he said something that I have said to my kids so many times. “What if I told you there was no reality, only perception?” With three boys at home I cannot express how many times I have told my boys those very words. There are times when they would argue and when I would talk to them about it I would hear “I was only joking”. Humor is a funny thing. Jokes are only funny if the one hearing it thinks it’s funny. Perception!!
How do you think people are receiving you? Are you coming across the way you are meaning to come across? It is so important to not only choose your words carefully but to check your tone while speaking. I mean, if you are talking to a friend and you express to them that it would be nice if they would join you for lunch, but you say it with a gruff tone they may not think the invitation is genuine. Or maybe your tone is upbeat, but you say “you can come if you want” which may also have a negative perception.
Maybe if we all tried a little harder to be considerate of others and to check our vocabulary and our tone we may find that people would be more receptive to us. After all, how a person reacts to what another is saying is primarily the responsibility of the one trying to convey the message. Therefore, Dr. Phil is correct. There is no reality. Only perception.
Like everyone, we all live in a society filled with negativity and angry people. There are times that I am given the “stink eye” for being to happy. It gives me a chuckle to see people who actually think being happy is an annoying habit. If that’s the case I intend on being the most annoying person on the planet.
I used to hear people say “just be positive and everything will work out”. This sounded all well and good, however I thought how can I do this when I am surrounded by negative unhappy people? Then I figured out how to own my own feelings and allow others to own their’s. When I was able to recognize whether or not the feelings I was having were mine or someone else’s it was easy to dissociate with those that were not mine. It was as easy as taking inventory of what I was feeling. Deciding whether or not what I was feeling had anything to do with me or my day. If it didn’t I was able to let it go. Simple as that.
At first it took some effort. Mostly just recognizing when a mood would strike me that was out of character for what was happening in my day. After a relatively short amount of time I was able to catch the change in my mood quickly. Usually when someone would enter or exit my space. Did they leave the room with a cleansing, happy feeling or was it more of thickness and tension? I came to realise that it was only a same small handful of people who would leave the room feeling heavy and tense. Once I pin pointed the culprits it was easier to let it go. I simply understood that these people are obviously unhappy, so it became my mission to get them to smile, at least when they were in my presents. Smiling extra wide when I see them and killing them with kindness really works. Believe it or not you can change the way a person reacts when they are around you simply by the smile on your face and the tone in your voice. Oh, yes and being silly is good too.
This morning I woke up with a strong feeling that watching television is sucking the creativity out of me. I have had this feeling before, but let it go because I have dramatically cut back my TV watching already. There was a time when Television was my best friend. I watched literally all of the time, and if I wasn’t home I DVR’d. The whole time I was watching I was incredibly bored. So, I would head to the fridge and the cupboard grab a bag of chips and a tub of dip and I would be all set for the evening. However, all that got me was a stones throw from 300 lbs. Not exactly the greatest pay off.
In January I began reading a book that suggested that I take a short hiatus from the television and social media. At first I thought I would never make it, but in the end I was pleasantly surprised. I didn’t find myself bored, not once. I was able to really take a step back. It became clear that the reason I was almost 300 pounds was that I was living primarily in my subconscious mind, carrying the emotions from all the TV watching. I was picking up on all the sadness from other people’s problems on Facebook. Once I was able to separate from all of that I was able to get outside of my head. It is in the subconscious where boredom lives. I do not want to live subconsciously. Allowing the daily worries of life to drag me down. I can’t change them so they don’t deserve my energy. I have given all my worries to God. He is my vindicator. He will fight my battles for me. He can do a much better job at righting my wrongs than I can. So I surrender.
I have chosen to live superciliously. Allowing my intuition to guide me from one moment to the next. It is absolutely so important to uncluttered the mind everyday. Taking the time to take deep cleansing breath and making a commitment to Meditate daily as well can make all the difference. I cannot express how much meditating has enhanced my daily life. It is an important part of my day. I must give a shout out to Oprah and Deepak Chopra for their help in getting that started for me. When I heard of the 21 day Challenge I knew it was for me. I didn’t miss a day, and now that it is over I have continued on with it.
Anyway, since I have made a personal promise to follow my intuition, the television is going to have to be cut down even more. There are certain shows I will not miss. Oprah’s Life Class and Joel Osteen of course and lets not forget Survivor and Celebrity Apprentice.
It’s funny that after forty-five years of life I have found that relying on willpower alone will get me nowhere. I used to wonder why I didn’t have willpower. I felt like I was just a weak human being. I would start out strong and eventually petered out very early on. There have been times where I would lose sixty to eighty pounds, only to gain it back plus some. Even though I knew that there would come a day that I would be able to get this under control there were times when logic would tell me that maybe this was my cross to bear. Fortunately for me, I was not going to except that. I knew there had to be something more.
In those times where I would give up and return to my old habits I would feel even more doomed to live a life of morbid obesity, and probably die young because of it. However, I have always had this “knowing” I would not be able to fulfill my purpose with this “monkey” on my back, that I had to finish this to completion. It was clouding my thoughts, and causing anxiety. It wasn’t until I discovered that willpower alone is not what I needed at all. That willpower would never withstand the test of time.
Over the past few months I have learned how to stay within the present moment. How to love me unconditionally. How to be kind to myself and go with the “flow” of my life. It was not that I didn’t know how to eat healthy. Being that I have had this problem my entire life I have read and researched every diet known to man and have tried most of them as well, only to find out that eating clean and moving my body was the only way. The “normal” way. Even though I was fully aware of what I needed to do it was just to hard. It was like pulling teeth to make it through day three. I would eventually fail and feel even worse and even more out of control than before. It was a spiral of despair. Let me give you a heads up. If it takes will then you have not let go of old thought patterns and old hurt feelings associated with whatever it is you are facing. I have found that writing is the best way possible to organize my thoughts. It is my daily dose of therapy.
Now, for me, it is as easy as breathing. I have learned how to stay present and positive. It cannot be a struggle. It has to feel natural, and it must always come from love. The best thing about finding such pure happiness is the urge to pay it forward. I have a compulsion to raise people up where before in my miserable state of mind I couldn’t have cared less. I have always asked God to find me a position to be nice to people. Now I know that I am in a position to be nice to people. All I have to do is find a kind word, or share a smile, lend a hand or an ear. Sometimes the simplest things can mean the most.
Wow, it has been such a long time since I have blogged. I have been spending the past three months on a personal journey to expand my spirituality. I have found such peace and contentedness in my life. There is something to be said for surrendering yourself to allow life to flow without interference. It brings about a sense of great peace. Peace is power. There is also quite a lot less of me as well. At Christmas time I had not only gained all the weight back that I had lost but tacked on a little more for good measure. My life was spiraling out of control at that time. When I ate it was like a frenzied feeling and right after I felt devastated, like a failure. It was awful.
Then, on the morning of January 2nd I believe that I had an awakening of some sort. I remember waking up that morning, going to the computer and searching for books that would help to to gain some perspective to why it is I do what I do. I began the search for my true self. I turned to God and my faith to gain control of my life. I started reading many books that were designed to help me in this journey of self exploration. I have never been a reader but let me tell you I now have a deep sincere love for the peace that it offers.
This morning I had a strong urge to take a moment to update everyone on what I have been up to lately, and since I have been making it a practice to follow my intuition it was a must to take a moment to blog. I am making a promise to not walk away again. I will keep in contact.