Like everyone, we all live in a society filled with negativity and angry people. There are times that I am given the “stink eye” for being to happy. It gives me a chuckle to see people who actually think being happy is an annoying habit. If that’s the case I intend on being the most annoying person on the planet.
I used to hear people say “just be positive and everything will work out”. This sounded all well and good, however I thought how can I do this when I am surrounded by negative unhappy people? Then I figured out how to own my own feelings and allow others to own their’s. When I was able to recognize whether or not the feelings I was having were mine or someone else’s it was easy to dissociate with those that were not mine. It was as easy as taking inventory of what I was feeling. Deciding whether or not what I was feeling had anything to do with me or my day. If it didn’t I was able to let it go. Simple as that.
At first it took some effort. Mostly just recognizing when a mood would strike me that was out of character for what was happening in my day. After a relatively short amount of time I was able to catch the change in my mood quickly. Usually when someone would enter or exit my space. Did they leave the room with a cleansing, happy feeling or was it more of thickness and tension? I came to realise that it was only a same small handful of people who would leave the room feeling heavy and tense. Once I pin pointed the culprits it was easier to let it go. I simply understood that these people are obviously unhappy, so it became my mission to get them to smile, at least when they were in my presents. Smiling extra wide when I see them and killing them with kindness really works. Believe it or not you can change the way a person reacts when they are around you simply by the smile on your face and the tone in your voice. Oh, yes and being silly is good too.