The other day while watching Dr. Phil he said something that I have said to my kids so many times. “What if I told you there was no reality, only perception?” With three boys at home I cannot express how many times I have told my boys those very words. There are times when they would argue and when I would talk to them about it I would hear “I was only joking”. Humor is a funny thing. Jokes are only funny if the one hearing it thinks it’s funny. Perception!!
How do you think people are receiving you? Are you coming across the way you are meaning to come across? It is so important to not only choose your words carefully but to check your tone while speaking. I mean, if you are talking to a friend and you express to them that it would be nice if they would join you for lunch, but you say it with a gruff tone they may not think the invitation is genuine. Or maybe your tone is upbeat, but you say “you can come if you want” which may also have a negative perception.
Maybe if we all tried a little harder to be considerate of others and to check our vocabulary and our tone we may find that people would be more receptive to us. After all, how a person reacts to what another is saying is primarily the responsibility of the one trying to convey the message. Therefore, Dr. Phil is correct. There is no reality. Only perception.