I am in the midst of my greatest lesson. I have a family member that is negative ninety-eight percent of the time. This person is someone who I cannot simply exclude from my life, and even though there are days I wish I could, I would not because I love them. I know that the spark they ignite within me is my problem. I know this and I still am unable to tame the flame when I hear the meanest comments escape their lips. I need your help, God. I need to know what to fix within myself so that this persons way of being doesn’t affect me so. I know that this person is probably my greatest teacher in life because until I am able to learn how to deal with my own emotional flare ups in these types of situations this lesson will not end.
I know that this person is probably sad inside and that they feel that life is against them. Sadly they are right. I used to walk the earth with this very attitude and it manifested all the wrong people into my life, and it manifested more problems than I cared to handle. How do I help this person when they are unwilling to hear the truth? How can I help them when their come back to my advice is “I don’t want to hear that positive bullshit”? I pray for them daily and now I pray for myself because I am beginning the think the problem is actually mine.
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I have the same problem. The very same one. The problem is not yours, it’s theirs. Only they can evolve to a point where they understand that the negativity comes from them. Unfortunately with these kind of people that is a very tall order. All you can do is remember that you are on a different spiritual level and try to shield any negativity they chuck at you the best you can. That’s also a tough one. I know. I’ve been dealing with it all my life and it’s so draining. Keep the faith. One day it will be better for the both of us 🙂 No one deserves to be treated like that. They will come to understand that too one day. I believe that. Everyone has to be accountable for their actions on earth.
Thank you and I will continue to pray for them. I wish nothing more than for them to find the peace and happiness they deserve. God bless you and thanks again for taking the time to comment. It meant a lot.
You’re very welcome. Maybe if we put our heads together we can finally find a solution, I’ve been trying for close to 35 years though! Told you it’s a tough one! lol 😉
Wow that is a long time 🙂 You must be one strong person by now.
I try to be, it’s been a life long struggle. I came to the conclusion that letting it get to me only brings my energy down more, but it’s easier said than done that’s for sure.
We all know someone negative. They always see the clouds in the sky as rain and not the reflection they shimmer on the lake below. It is always a bad day and not a day to be lived to the fullest. Just go with the flow. You can not change them and the more you try the more frustrated you are.
Thank you. I have literally racked my brain over this one.
I just wish the negative people would keep their negative energy to themselves. I get frustrated with it myself because the negative person I’m thinking about always has to find a way to spread it around. I’ve heard them referred to as emotional vampires. I’ve put geographical distance between me and this person, but we still have to interact.
I understand and it makes a lot of sense that misery love company. It is so sad, really. I only wish I had a little distance but but I don’t. I am hoping one day that we do have a little distance so the misery is not so often anymore. 🙂
Yes. They are our best teachers! I don’t like it when I’m in the midst of it..gggrrrr.. but.. what happens with these conflicts? I turn to my God. Good stuff. Forgive them..forgive ourselves , over &over & over. I also have to take breaks from them and/or limited time. AND….KEEP THAT POSITIVE STUFF FLOWING LIKE AN I.V.!!!! You are awesome & so are they. They just don’t know it yet & sadly may never. Pray pray pray.;*
Thank you so much for your kind words. We all need them sometimes. I will continue to pray and help others whenever I can. That’s what it’s all about. 🙂
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