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Can You Say No Without Guilt?

Published April 20, 2015 by Stuff My Brain Thinks
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I am a firm believer that we show people how to treat us.  Do you have boundaries in place for your life?  For many years I never had, but as I learned to love myself I found that I needed boundaries, not only boundaries for myself but boundaries for others.

I needed to know what I would, and would not tolerate from the people in my life, and what I would, and would not tolerate from myself.  It took a little time and a lot of digging to figure out just what I would allow.

It wasn’t easy, but I learned to say no without guilt.  That was a big one for me since for most of my life I was a people pleaser.  The first few times I literally felt a spark in my sacral chakra.  I was, admittedly, a little over whelmed but when no one died and life did’t crumble before me, I realized it would be OK, and it was, over time it got easier and easier.  Now the word, no, is just another word to me.

There are so many people in my life that have an aversion to the word no, and because of that they are taken advantage of and are under-appreciated.  I see this in the work place far too much.  There are some who drop the ball and others who pick it up.  I have to tell you from experience it is not the one picking it up that is catered too.  It is generally not the one that goes the extra mile that gets the raise.  Why?  Because it is expected.  It’s as simple as that.

I have clear, set boundaries these days.  I don’t feel the need to do anything I don’t want to do.  This does not at all mean that I am selfish.  In fact, I am more selfless than I have ever been in my life.  I am just more discerning now.  I am more choosy about who I help, and what I do.  It all comes back to the body, If I have a negative feeling about it in any way, I simply do not do it.  It has to feel good for me to be on board.  I have to feel a sense of peace about the situation to move forward.  I trust myself enough to know what is good for me.When-you-know-better-you-do-better

Life without boundaries is terrible.  It’s all tense and thick.  It’s stressful, who needs that?  I struggled against everything in my life for many years.  It wasn’t until I discovered boundaries that I realized maintaining them would be what would give me the confidence and strength to stand up and Be me, to stand up and reclaim my life.  Setting boundaries is what brought me back to who I am meant to be.

My very first healthy boundary was a daily meditation practice.  I committed to it and I am glad I did.  Shortly following the start of my meditation practice a few more healthy boundaries popped up and they were to eat cleanly, get the proper amount of sleep, and to be hydrated every day.

I added more and more boundaries until I felt as though I was living authentically as myself.  I do what feels right for me and on the flip side I don’t do anything that doesn’t.  I don’t feel bad or make excuses for my decisions either, there is nothing to defend, I am simply doing what is right for me.

I have come to realize that I am as important, if not more than, anyone else out there.  I have to take care of me, so I can take care of others.  I used to believe that I could hate myself whole, but now I know better.

And as the great Maya Angelou said “when you know better you do better” 

❤  Michele

Waking up in Northern NY

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Spiritual Enlightenment and Icky Emotions

Published April 15, 2015 by Stuff My Brain Thinks

Does being awakened and enlightened mean that we never get angry, sad or annoyed?  I don’t think so.  God made us with an array of emotions, lets use them.  What kind of person walks around happy all of the time.  I mean, I am happy quite a lot but when something happens to annoy or anger me, the people in my life don’t know what to do.edf98fc94bd66505855f0f5b3e1259ee

Because it is so out of character for me to be anything but happy and uplifted these days it seems if I do have an off couple of hours it throws everyone else off as well.  This is precisely what happened yesterday.  I am working alone this week because my secretary is in Florida and wouldn’t you know it, this is the week one of our most important printers goes down for a couple of hours.

By the end of the whole ordeal I’m not going to lie, I was a bit frustrated, nothing serious, just a bit agitated to have to deal with this issue while I am working alone.  However, on the bright side, I had a hunch that I should test the printer at like two o’clock in the afternoon, which is about two hours before I needed to use it.  Had I not listened to my intuition I would have gotten backed up at the end of the day, held the boys up from loading the trucks and the worst, I would have gotten out of work late.  But It all turned out well because I did listen to my intuition, did the test print, discovered it wasn’t working, and the rest is history.

I want to say thank you to my spiritual team for giving me the information to check the printer out, and I want to thank myself for listening and following that information.  Turns out the Ethernet cable came loose.  Chalk one up to the all-knowing!  

Today is a new day.  I am open and ready to move through this day with grace.  I am ready to flow with what is and to be open and receptive to the hints and messages from my spiritual advisers.

My Daily Affirmations:

  • I am open and receptive to the good and abundance of the universe.
  • I talk less and listen more.  I give people the gift of being fully present with them.

Happy Hump day my friends.  Life is what you think it…

Michele ❤

Rituals or Routine?

Published April 14, 2015 by Stuff My Brain Thinks
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Who out there has rituals they perform on a daily basis?  I for one, love my morning rituals.  I love them so much I get up between three and four o’clock in the morning to be sure I am able to get them all in.  These rituals have changed my life.  I seriously went from a miserable, person to a blissful person in a very short amount of time.

I am able to carry out these rituals with ease because they are moving me closer to my purpose.  I can feel it each and every day.  I get up, I learn more, read more, write more and I feel fabulous for it.

So, each morning I get up and after feeding the cats and making the coffee, I dance.  I turn on some dance music and just go to town.  This morning I danced while watching Ellen with the music playing lightly in the back ground.  I have to say it was pretty awesome.  Ellen is a great person.  When I am finished watching her show I feel so uplifted, so I thought I would do it first thing in the morning and see how it uplifts my day.  I am giving this a definite thumbs up!

Then I open my journal and begin writing.  Whatever comes to mind, even if it is silly and nonsensical, I write it anyway because once the pen is primed I get my best information.  I use my journal to ask for guidance.  I use my journal to plan my meals or what I have to do in any given day.  I write outside of the lines and I scribble in it.  It is me and I love it.  I heard someone say one time that they wrote their self joyful.  That statement resonates with me because I feel as though I have written myself joyful as well.

The next thing I do is meditate for twenty minutes.  I usually just turn on YouTube to a meditation video, turn down the lights and meditate.  My mantra of choice is So Hum.  I like it because it means I am, which are two of my favorite words.  Did you know that whatever follows I am, will be what creates your life?  Therefore, we all want to be careful how you use those two powerful words.

Finally, I contemplate my day for a few seconds and then come up with an affirmation or two that brings it all together.  So, lets see, what are a couple of good affirmations for this fine Tuesday morning?

  • I am open and receptive to the messages from my teacher guides today
  • I am at peace and ready to learn
  • I am a perpetual student.  I am ready to take my spiritual growth to the next level
  • I am prosperous.  My income increases constantly

So there you have it, I have four today.  As they come I write them down.  I know they are messages from my intuition so I do not leave any out.  They are all equally important.

Well, my friends I am off to get on with my day.  May you all find peace and contentment as well as hope and excitement.

Have a blessed day

Michele ❤

Waking Up in Norther NY

Getting Guidance and Trusting Your Messages

Published April 10, 2015 by Stuff My Brain Thinks

Today I am enjoying a day off.  I have discovered that I like being good to me, so I took today and plan on spending it with my darling husband.  It’s early, and I am the only one up.  It’s actually quite nice to enjoy some “me” time, some blogging time.

This morning I have been trying to articulate what it is that I actually believe these days.  I have spent the past few years Doreen-Virtue-Archangel-Michael-Remember-who-you-aredoing a lot of soul-searching.  I have journaled a lot, meditated a lot and really found a deep connection with my inner being.  It feels amazing to trust myself and my decisions.  It seems that I have found the sweet spot where all of my questions, concerns and wonders are answered.

It’s absolutely amazing to have the knowing to make decisions that are good for me and my family.  I used to allow others to make decisions for my life.  I had no idea that doing what everyone else wanted me to do would only create catastrophe and it often did, however I wasn’t conscious enough to see it then.

I mean, let’s be logical, if we do what someone else wants us to do it simply wont work.  Doing what is right for someone else just will not fit into the path of our life.  We are all unique individuals.  What is right for one cannot possible be what is right for another.  Listening to what others have to say is one thing but to do it exactly as they have will not work to our advantage.

I believe that the divine connection to my soul is more valuable than having all of the rich’s in the world.  Being connected to, and trusting the guidance of my spiritual advisers, God and the Archangels has transformed my life.  I have found a peace I didn’t know existed.  I have found Love and Light and completely get that they are what power the entire universe.

That been said, I am off to spread Love and Light those I come in contact with, whether it be physically or technologically.  I am ready to uplift.

My affirmations for today:

I am enough.

I am love and understanding.

I am open and receptive to the universal creative mind.

I maintain my healthy boundaries because it keeps the lines of communication open with my spiritual advisors.

And so it is ❤

What’s Your Truth?

Published April 4, 2015 by Stuff My Brain Thinks

What is my truth?

My truth is that I don’t know anything for certain except that I love me and love getting to know me.  Have you ever asked yourself, what is your truth?  It’s not as easy as one would think to put it down in black and white.  Knowing my truth has become my passion.

I have become aware that my inner purpose is to awaken to the fact that I am an incredibly interesting being.  Writing and learning about myself has been such an exhilarating project since starting a little over three years ago.  It’s never boring and I always learn something new.  For so long I wanted a hobby.  I was always complaining that I was bored.  Little did I know that I was the hobby I was looking for.

It all started so simply, journal writing, and meditating in the morning.  In the beginning there were a lot of stuff coming to the surface that I would have normally stuffed down with food, cigarettes, alcohol or whatever was there for that day.  But instead of stuffing it down I wrote it down, I wrote and wrote and wrote.  It was like releasing all of this stuff to make way for a more peaceful existence.

Through it all I can happily say that I have pretty much worked through all the garbage of my past, and have become aware enough to see the conditioned patterns that developed because of that garbage.  It was fun to get in there and dig deep when certain emotions would come up or certain destructive patterns would resurface.

I filled many journals, and through that I found that the more I wrote the more joyous I became.  Self-awareness, self-discovery and self-discipline are, in my opinion, in the foundation for a beautifully connected life.

It was, at times, an extremely emotional journey, mostly in the very beginning.  However, it didn’t take long to work through it, once I learned the art of forgiveness.  I know longer wallow in my own misery, and I know longer create misery for those that I love.  I have learned to forgive and have been forgiven.  I finally come from a place of peace and contentment.  I am able to see the universe rising up to meet me.

I am on my way.  I have graduated through the first phase of my journey, clearing the pathway.  With my pathway clear, I am able to enjoy the flow of the universe.  I am able to clearly pick up messages meant especially for me.  I can communicate with my spiritual team whenever I need them.  Life has opened up to me and I am so excited to see what it has in store.  It’s like a really good series that has no ending.

Onward and upward, my friends.

Life is a blessing, and since we are one with life, we are a blessing as well.

Thank You, All You Blogsters

Published March 30, 2015 by Stuff My Brain Thinks

Good morning all you amazing blogsters.  I felt compelled to come in and simply offer a good morning to you all, with much love and adoration.  May we all recognize ourselves for what we are and that is giving beings willing to share our lives in the hopes to somehow make a difference to someone, somewhere.

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That is the beauty of the internet.  Sometimes we feel really small in the world.  Sometimes we wonder how we can possible make a difference from our tiny little corner of the world.  That is where the internet comes in pretty handy.  We have the ability to lift a person up who we’ve never met.  We have the ability to commit random acts of kindness with our words to anywhere in the world.

Get up right now and take a look in the mirror and really appreciate the goodness you see.  We are all changing the world one person at a time.  That person being ourselves.  Express your love and appreciation for you!  Because you are making a difference just by being you.

It was brought to my attention this weekend that the greatest service any of us can offer the world is that of living a conscious, loving life.  I also learned that I am responsible for the vibration I emit, therefore, I choose to be vibrationally high, emitting only loving, kindness.

Be Blessed and Be a Blessing

Michele

My Latest Vision Board ♥

Published March 23, 2015 by Stuff My Brain Thinks

Here is my latest vision board.  This board represents spiritual growth and being involved in the spiritual community.  I would love nothing more than to be a part of the Hay House family, and move to a warmer climate.  Carlsbad, California is where The Chopra Center avision boardnd Hay House Publications are located, the reason for picking that area.

I have had some great results come from my vision boards.  I am looking forward to taking this intention all the way.

I am ready to make a big move in my life.

I am ready to move to an area of the world where there are people on the same vibration as me.

God?

Published March 2, 2015 by Stuff My Brain Thinks

It’s been a while since I have actually posted a blog, and since there have been some things swimming around in that mind of mine, I figured I would release them to the blogosphere.

So here it goes.  I was born and raised a Catholic.  I spent six years in Catholic school and my family are still Church going Catholics to this day.  As for me, well, I have different beliefs as an adult.  Don’t get me wrong the six years I spent in Catholic school were the best.  I remember the sticky rice and thick bread we had for lunch.  Oh and lets not forget the bagged milk.  Ahhh the memories.

I loved the nuns and singing in Church.  I loved the togetherness I felt going there but I don’t actually recall obsorbing much knowledge about God and the bible except that most of what I did would probably land me in hell one day.  I knew I was a sinner so it was just something I accepted.

I spent several years of my young life in Church two and three times a week.  I have fulfilled my Church going for a life time, in my opinion.  I do not look down at people who believe in the bible or going to Church.   Our beliefs are our own and each person’s belief is their truth.  There are so many different ways to worship.  There is no right one.  They are all right.

If I could explain my views on God to my family I would say, to me, God is everything.  God is the universe and when I speak of the Universe I speak of God.  God lives within us all and to worship God, to me is to worship myself.  I personally do not believe that God can be contained in the skin of man.  I believe that deity was created because most people need to have something physical to focus on.  It is a representation of what God is but not who He is.  As far as the bible is concerned it was written by man, so I have my doubts there.   And frankly, my God is a loving God.  A lot of the stories in the bible just do not represent what God is to me.

God is the all seeing, all knowing force that created the world.  God is the trees just before winter as they die and those same trees as they find life again in the spring.  God is inanimate and ever moving.  God is the life force within us all and that which connects us all.  God is indescribable.

Just know this, everything is life is based on reciprocity.  Whatever you give you get.  If you want to worship the Universe/God do right by yourself and all the people you come in contact with.  Be responsible for the vibration you give off to the world.  Love is the creation of all things so just love your way through life and you cant go wrong.

So in conclusion, I would say to my family.  I know we don’t see eye to eye on this subject but we are all about love, so lets just agree that we are different and love each other, be a family and move forward.  No judgments on either side.  🙂

Looking Back

Published January 15, 2015 by Stuff My Brain Thinks

“Look back upon your life and ask: What up to now have you truly loved, what has raised your soul, what ruled it and at the same time made you happy? Line up these objects of reverence before you, and see how they form a ladder on which you have so far climbed up toward your true self.” – Friedrich Nietzsche

  • Getting to know me on a deep level has raised my soul and at the same time has made me happy. It is a passion of mine to get to know me layer by layer.
  • Meditation is something I truly love and has also raised my soul and helped me to find my internal bliss.
  • Helping people by listening to their problems without adding my opinions.
  • Blogging raises my soul and makes me feel fulfilled. I only wish I had more to write about.  Topics that will truly benefit my readers.
  • Being in my home in the peace and contentedness of my sanctuary makes me feel close to my soul. A connection between the human that I am and the being.
  • I love working with numbers. Working in the office I am at right now makes me feel happy and content.
  • I love to cook healthy meals. Nutritionally sound meals.  Love myself meals.
  • I love music. Its strikes me deep in my soul.
  • I love writing. I journal write daily as a means to sort out my thoughts and to gain insight into myself.
  • I love increasing my spiritual growth aka: growing in self-awareness
  • I love living a positive life, a life of surrender and flexibility.
  • I love walking in nature on a warm summer’s day

This, That and Some Other Stuff

Published December 25, 2014 by Stuff My Brain Thinks

Three years ago today I wrote and published my first blog post, one of the best decisions I’ve ever made.  We probably got a laptop that year too.  This years laptop was a gift from my myself to my husband.  Of course what’s his is mine and vice versa, he can play his bingo and I can blog and follow my other passion of learning new things.

I am so excited about what 2015 has in store for me and my family.  Monday I have no doubt the I will accomplish some big things this coming years, and I feel like my  boys are going to make huge strides in there lives.  I couldn’t be more proud of them and all they have become.

In the more recent future, I have an appointment at the bariatric center to see the dietitian.  Fun, fun…..  This means I will have to be weighed.  Weighing, for me, is counter productive.  I like to gauge my progress by how I feel, mentally, physically, and emotionally.  If I am living joyfully, feeling connected to everyone and everything I am living a full life.  All of this made possible by simply maintaining my healthy boundaries and practicing my personalized eight components to a happier, healthier me.

  • Proper Nutrition
  • Body Movement
  • Sleep
  • Hydration
  • Meditation
  • Love
  • Gratitude
  • Journal Writing

Yes, the components have grown since my last post.  It wasn’t that I added them to my life because all of the above have been a part of my life for some time now, it’s that I didn’t realize how important each and everyone of them were, until a journal writing session brought out the importance of each of them, independently and collectively.

Anyway, I hope everyone is having a very Merry Christmas and a Blessed New Year.  Believe that the best is yet to come and you will be right.  Believe that you are a magnet for Miracles and you will be.  Believe you are a blessing to all because you are.

❤ Michele

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