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The Stuff My Brain Thinks

Published April 21, 2015 by Stuff My Brain Thinks

shutterstock_63877450Last night I had a hunch that it was time to start looking into creating a real website for my blog so that I can add other aspects to it as I grow.  It’s time to move forward, I got the message loud and clear.  Thankfully I have the greatest teacher guides, they are always there to give me the exact information I need, when I need it, so I am not worried one bit.

I know that I will be able to build a handsome website, that will give me the opportunity to spread my message.  It’s funny because since getting the vibe that it was time to get a website up and moving, I have been thinking a lot about the name of this one, Stuff My Brain Thinks.  When I named this blog several years ago it was just after the worst depression of my life, which was also the biggest blessing of my life because it made way for my awakening.

I called it stuff my brain thinks because at the time I suddenly became aware of all of the garbage that was going on inside of my head.  The worst of the worst, I tell you.  It was no wonder I was looking for a way out.  Anyway, since this time I have spent a lot of time writing.

Every time a thought or emotion would come up I would write it down and then do a direct writing exercise I learned somewhere, I can’t recall.  This technique is simply to clear the mind with a couple deep breaths and then start writing.  I didn’t think about what I was writing I just wrote.  A few years later and countless filled journals and I am happier than I ever thought possible.  For many years I felt doomed to a life of misery.  I thought it was a disorder that I would have to live with forever.  Oh, how wrong was I?36111-Success

I was continually unraveling all of the stuff my brain was thinking.  Of course, I know now that the thoughts in my head are just that, thoughts.  Some of them are amazing and productive and some are junk.  I was considering changing the name of my website but now that I think about it, it makes perfect sense as to why I named it the way I did in the first place.

I became aware of the separation between my thoughts and the observer of my thoughts and that was the only way I knew to articulate it at the time.  We can change the stuff our brains think.  We can be responsible thinkers.  I mean heck there is a ton of hoop la about taking care of the body, how about the mind?  Shouldn’t the mind get some hoop la too?

Anywho that is the stuff my brain was thinking this morning 🙂

I love you all!  I hope you have the most blessed day!  Keep your eye out for your messages…..  They are coming at you every day.

Michele  ❤

Weight-Loss Surgery

Published July 9, 2014 by Stuff My Brain Thinks

Weight-loss-Surgery-Gastric-Bypass-Lap-Band-GastrectomyThis week I did something I didn’t think I would ever do.  I called and made my first appointment of many to look into getting the weight-loss surgery.  I said I would never do it but since losing a hundred pounds last year, I have had a change of heart.  Once again I made it to 199 pounds and am slowly creeping back the other way.  It’s not that I dislike myself.  On the contrary, it’s that I love myself and I know that in order to be truly healthy I have to get to a healthy weight.

I don’t know if I will go through with it or if I am even a candidate at this point, but I am going to take the time to look into it.  I deserve to experience life as a person of a healthy weight once and for all.  I am ready to finally get to where I am supposed to be and stay there.  However, until then I will do my best not to gain to much weight.  I worked so hard to get that first hundred off, I don’t want to have to take it off all over again.

I will do everything that is required of me, and as with everything I do, I will do my very best.  I am putting this in God’s hands.  Meaning, if it is what is right for me, it will happen, and if not, it wont.  At this point I have no expectations.  I am simply taking the steps to see if it is right for me.

I Did it My Way

Published March 20, 2014 by Stuff My Brain Thinks

This is dedicated to all of those people who think they know what is best for my life. I may not always make the best decisions but these decisions are mine. I would rather make a ton of mistakes on my own, then to live a life according to what others think. I did this for many years, and I was not living. I was not me. I was someone else. I was a thousand someone else’s. I stood for nothing, because every stand I took was someone else’s. Since standing up for myself, since making my own decisions and living a life of authenticity, I now know what living is all about. So in the words of Frank Sinatra; I Did it My Way!!

And now, the end is near
And so I face the final curtain
My friend, I’ll say it clear
I’ll state my case, of which I’m certain

I’ve lived a life that’s full
I traveled each and every highway
And more, much more than this
I did it my way

Regrets, I’ve had a few
But then again, too few to mention
I did what I had to do
And saw it through without exemption

I planned each charted course
Each careful step along the byway
And more, much more than this
I did it my way

Yes, there were times, I’m sure you knew
When I bit off more than I could chew
But through it all, when there was doubt
I ate it up and spit it out

I faced it all and I stood tall
And did it my way

I’ve loved, I’ve laughed and cried
I’ve had my fill, my share of losing
And now, as tears subside
I find it all so amusing to think I did all that

And may I say, not in a shy way
Oh, no, oh, no, not me, I did it my way

For what is a man, what has he got?
If not himself, then he has not
To say the things he truly feels
And not the words of one who kneels

The record shows I took the blows
And did it my way

Yes, it was my way

My Affirmations/Incantations

Published March 18, 2014 by Stuff My Brain Thinks

It’s going to be a great day!!

  • I am in perfect health
  • I love my body and therefore feed it with rich whole foods in the proper amounts
  • I love my body and therefore I move it every day, giving it the exercise it needs and deserves
  • I am creative and therefore express myself creatively
  • I am influential and therefore I influence people’s lives in a positive way
  • I-thinkI am prosperous, I pay my bills with joy knowing that every dollar I put out comes back to me ten fold
  • I manifest money
  • My income increases constantly
  • Money flows freely through me
  • People come from out of the wood work to help me succeed
  • Even strangers want to help thrust me forward in life
  • I trust in my intuition as I know it is Gods gentle urgings for my path
  • I am open and receptive to the good and abundance of the universe
  • I am surrounded by kind and loving people
  • People are naturally good
  • I am blessed and open to the explosive blessings God has planned for my future
  • I am healthy and strong and am able to maintain my healthy boundaries
  • I am peaceful and contented on the inside and am able to feel bliss from the depth of my core

Above are my affirmations/incantations.  They are first affirmations because I say them daily, and second they are incantations because I say them with great feeling.  Throughout all of the readings I have done, I have found that affirmations truly do work.  Whether you are telling yourself something positive or something negative you are unknowingly creating your own future.  The affirmations that manifest the quickest are the ones that you say with great feeling.

Unfortunately, if you take a listen to what you are telling yourself over and over again with great feeling, you are probably going to see that most of what is going on inside of your mind is negative.  You may be stating over and over what you don’t want with such demand that you are actually manifesting it for your life.  For example if you are saying to yourself “I am sick of being broke, I don’t want to be broke any longer”.  You are actually reinforcing your life of destitution.  On the other hand if you say with great passion; “I am prosperous, I have plenty of money, I am able to lend and not borrow”.  Then you will manifest your own prosperity.

This also works with your health.  If you tend to tell yourself you are not feeling well, you are tired, fat, and lazy, then that is exactly what you are going to be.  On the other hand if you tell yourself you are in perfect health, that you are physically fit, and that you love and honor your body, then you will see this manifest as well.  I cannot tell you how many years I was negative and allowed my thoughts to make me ill, broke, and unhappy.

It may take a little work but we all have the ability to change the way we think.  We are in control of our thoughts.  It is when we let our thoughts control us that we find life unbearable.  Being that March is Self-awareness month, what better time to take control of what we think and in turn take control of our lives.  I for one am on top of this.  I am excited about my affirmations and incantations.  After saying them I feel like I can take over the world.

I usually do them when I take a bathroom breaks.  Of course, I don’t scream them because my co-workers may call the paddy wagon if I did, but I do go into the bathroom, lock the door, stand in front of the mirror and whisper them with intense passion, and when I walk out I feel like a giant, like I could concur anything.  If nothing else each trip to the bathroom allows me to feel larger than life.  ☺

The Time is Now

Published March 17, 2014 by Stuff My Brain Thinks

The Time is Now

time-153986795I am ready to stop the excuses and be a size 14.  This size 16 has worn out its welcome.  I am through with it.  It’s time to take it to the next level.  I will not entertain any thought that does not support that.  I will not hear the same old worn out thought that says I can stay a size 16 for the rest of my life and be happy.  That is bologna.  It’s not what I want, therefore I will not follow that thought any longer or any other self-defeating thought.  

The next time I hear that thought or any other un-supporting thought I will delve into them,  asking where is this coming from and why is it coming forth at this time?  What is supporting?  I’ve got a feeling it is supporting bad eating habits and laziness.  After all, every action we make has to have a payoff, right?  Well, no more.  I am going to get to the bottom of this once and for all.

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My plan is to be diligent, hit that size fourteen and then back off and maintain that size for a while.  I am in no hurry.  I am only in it for health and a high quality of life, that’s all.  I intend on journal writing more often.  I will have my journal open and in front of me at all times.  That way as unnecessary thoughts come forth I can explore them.  Last year, I made major changes using this method.  Yes, I filled seven notebooks in about ten months time, but I had a lot to work out in the beginning.

I am in the fine tuning stages now.  I have made major changes to the way I think, feel, eat and live, now it’s time to become the changes I have made.  It’s time to keep my ego in check to be sure it doesn’t take over any longer.  I have lived an ego driven life for most of my life and it was not only difficult but it was also extremely damaging.  I prefer to live a spiritual driven life.  One that supports a deep connection to spirit and the following of the natural flow of the universal path that has been created especially for me.

Feeling Particularly Blessed this Morning

Published March 15, 2014 by Stuff My Brain Thinks
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I am feeling blessed.  My life is amazing.  I have so many people around me that love me and that matter.  Often times I get stuck worrying about others think of me and then I realize that it doesn’t matter.  Those that love me are not judging me.  Those that love me are not sizing me up, wondering whether or not I am going to gain my weight back or become the old person I once was.  Those that love me are not looking at me in haste or disgust but rather with love and compassion.

I am going to get dressed up today and do my hair.  I am going to do my makeup and get all prettied up for a day of music and dancing.  (Roger is playing for a jamboree to raise money for a young girl with cancer.)  Who am I to impress?  Myself, that’s who.  No one else matters.  As long as I am true and authentic all of the time I am living my best life.  As long as I move forward in life with love and compassion for those around me I am living according to God’s plan, for me.  As long as I speak to others in a loving and kind way I am speaking his word.

I am not a church going woman, by any means, however I do cherish my relationship with God.  We speak daily and I trust in his guidance.  I know that he loves me even when I am not at my best.  I know that he loves me with unconditioned passion.  I take solace in the fact that my steps are being guided and even when I may misstep it is no accident.  I know that he is aware of my mistakes even before I make them and as long as I am willing to learn from each one, I can only get better day after day.

I trust in my intuition because I know that my intuition contains messages from God.  I practice being present so that I can listen and hear my next move from the creator of the universe.  God has my back as he always has.  He is with me every moment and it is because of this that I am so excited about my future.  I am going to touch lives and help people in ways that I, myself, cannot fathom.

I Believe in You

Published March 7, 2014 by Stuff My Brain Thinks

Wow, I was just sitting here putting on my makeup when one of my dads favorite songs came Pandora.  Are you with me today, dad?  Because if I were to be honest it would be nice to know that even though we didn’t see eye to eye most of the time, that you would want to be close to me.  Even though at the time it seemed that we had many differences, the truth was that we were very much alike, and today at the age of 46 I cherish that because I am strong and smart and people don’t take advantage of me, and I owe it all to you!!

Emulating a Mediterranean Lifestyle How proper dieting and social activities like bingo help improve health

Published March 6, 2014 by Stuff My Brain Thinks

Emulating a Mediterranean Lifestyle  How proper dieting and social activities like bingo help improve health

mediterranean-diet-pyramidEven though it’s called the “Mediterranean diet,” the eating plan is more a lifestyle choice than anything else, being that it entails not just watching what you eat, but also the activities that you do which help reduce stress levels. It got its name from the fact that when Professor Ancel Keys set out to investigate international cardiovascular death rates back in 1980, he found that places around the Mediterranean – Greece’s Crete most especially – had the lowest health risk.
Diet Planning
We now live in a world where it’s very easy to be tempted by things which may not necessarily be all that wholesome. This doesn’t just apply to things we consume, but also to activities that we engage ourselves in. Nowadays, there seems to be more people plopping down on their couches to play video games and eat Cheetos all day.
More than ever, employing a lifestyle plan that incorporates proper eating is a must. The Ancient Greeks emphasized a way of living that took everything in moderation. Balance, they believe is the key to a wholesome existence. With this in mind, a Mediterranean diet insists on high vegetable, fruit, legume, and cereal consumption, while lowering salt, fat, sugar, dairy, and red meat intake. This sets up a balanced food intake that allows your body to regulate itself properly.
Healthy Habits
bingo_1428487cOn the activity side of things, the general consensus is that the more enjoyable it is, the less healthy it actually is. While this might hold true for some things, it shouldn’t be applied as an all-encompassing rule.
Researchers from Chicago’s Rush University Medical Center have discovered that highly social activities such as bingo could actually help improve your health even as you grow older. Head researcher Bryan James attributes this to the fact that these kinds of activities help keep a person physiologically active. In other words, they keep the body and mind constantly engaged without the effects of fatigue setting in easily. This prompts the brain to better control bodily development.
It’s a characteristic of bingo that game developers from the company Gaming Realms – creators of – understand all too well. Their titles are marked by gameplay elements that encourage active audience participation; a strategy that has worked out well for them given the 64% profits increase in their last quarterly profits report. A good example of these said elements is in how they challenge players to search every nook and cranny for hidden items that significantly enhance their playing experience once found. It’s details like this that allow players to stay alert and enjoy themselves more.
Wholesome Living
A lifestyle based on moderation is the key towards healthier living. With a nutritious diet and activities that promote good clean fun, a body less prone to developing physical and mental disabilities is undoubtedly the end result.

Discover Your Passion and Purpose

Published March 6, 2014 by Stuff My Brain Thinks

This morning is the first day of Discover Your Passion and Purpose, the three part mini series with Oprah and Deepak Chopra.

I actually wondered when they were going to be coming out with the next 21-Day Meditation series. ☺ I am happy, as always, to be a part of it.

Practicing Self-Awareness with Love

Published March 4, 2014 by Stuff My Brain Thinks

I have my first big decision to make this month.  Should I continue to go to the Jillian classes even though it is causing me sever pain in my rotator cuff?  First off I want to start by saying that even if I decide not to attend those classes anymore that I would still get up and go to Curves first thing in the morning, and I would go back to going six days a week instead of five.  When doing the Jillian classes I needed a couple of days rest because of the strain it caused to my muscles.

Last night I was waken by sever pain in my shoulder many times.  I have to say, I am not in this for pain.  I am not all about the “no pain no gain” bullshit that other fitness experts are into.  I am in this primarily for heart health.  I want to do what is right for my body and my mind.  I want to eat right and move my body to be healthy, not get ripped abs or a tight ass, which would be impossible without surgery anyway considering the amount of time I spent being severely overweight.

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With all that being said, I have to ask myself whether or not I am considering dropping the Jillian classes out of fear or out of love, as my previous blog post suggests.  I don’t fear that the pain with get worse or that I will lose the use of my arms so much, I guess, as much as I believe that I am considering dropping the class because I love my body and feel as though I am putting it under undue stress.  I am working to improve my quality of life, not hinder it.  If I am losing sleep and in pain all day at work, then what is the working out for?  It is not improving anything at all.

I just so happen to love me enough to know what my body can take and what it cannot.  At this point I wasn’t even able to go to Curves at all this morning because of the sever pain to both of my shoulders.  Last month it was only the right one, while today it is both.  My earlier belief that if I stuck it out it would get better is not proving to be correct at this point.  Several years ago when I when on an exercise kick I ended up hurting my back so badly that I had to lay on the floor for hours to get even a small amount of relief.  I swore at that time that I would never do that again.  Therefore, I believe my answer is clean at this point, no more Jillian classes.

Since I proclaimed the month of March to be self-awareness month I think it is absolutely important to know what is right for me.  It is important that I explore each and every situation/decision for what is best for my overall life, not for what others are going to think or say.  I am sure that this decision will get an eye roll and I will undoubtedly be meant with resistance when I go to the gym with my decision.

It’s ok though, because I am not living MY best life by what others think or feel are right for me.  The only one that knows what is right for me, is me.

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