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The Stuff My Brain Thinks

Published April 21, 2015 by Stuff My Brain Thinks

shutterstock_63877450Last night I had a hunch that it was time to start looking into creating a real website for my blog so that I can add other aspects to it as I grow.  It’s time to move forward, I got the message loud and clear.  Thankfully I have the greatest teacher guides, they are always there to give me the exact information I need, when I need it, so I am not worried one bit.

I know that I will be able to build a handsome website, that will give me the opportunity to spread my message.  It’s funny because since getting the vibe that it was time to get a website up and moving, I have been thinking a lot about the name of this one, Stuff My Brain Thinks.  When I named this blog several years ago it was just after the worst depression of my life, which was also the biggest blessing of my life because it made way for my awakening.

I called it stuff my brain thinks because at the time I suddenly became aware of all of the garbage that was going on inside of my head.  The worst of the worst, I tell you.  It was no wonder I was looking for a way out.  Anyway, since this time I have spent a lot of time writing.

Every time a thought or emotion would come up I would write it down and then do a direct writing exercise I learned somewhere, I can’t recall.  This technique is simply to clear the mind with a couple deep breaths and then start writing.  I didn’t think about what I was writing I just wrote.  A few years later and countless filled journals and I am happier than I ever thought possible.  For many years I felt doomed to a life of misery.  I thought it was a disorder that I would have to live with forever.  Oh, how wrong was I?36111-Success

I was continually unraveling all of the stuff my brain was thinking.  Of course, I know now that the thoughts in my head are just that, thoughts.  Some of them are amazing and productive and some are junk.  I was considering changing the name of my website but now that I think about it, it makes perfect sense as to why I named it the way I did in the first place.

I became aware of the separation between my thoughts and the observer of my thoughts and that was the only way I knew to articulate it at the time.  We can change the stuff our brains think.  We can be responsible thinkers.  I mean heck there is a ton of hoop la about taking care of the body, how about the mind?  Shouldn’t the mind get some hoop la too?

Anywho that is the stuff my brain was thinking this morning 🙂

I love you all!  I hope you have the most blessed day!  Keep your eye out for your messages…..  They are coming at you every day.

Michele  ❤

Thank You, All You Blogsters

Published March 30, 2015 by Stuff My Brain Thinks

Good morning all you amazing blogsters.  I felt compelled to come in and simply offer a good morning to you all, with much love and adoration.  May we all recognize ourselves for what we are and that is giving beings willing to share our lives in the hopes to somehow make a difference to someone, somewhere.


That is the beauty of the internet.  Sometimes we feel really small in the world.  Sometimes we wonder how we can possible make a difference from our tiny little corner of the world.  That is where the internet comes in pretty handy.  We have the ability to lift a person up who we’ve never met.  We have the ability to commit random acts of kindness with our words to anywhere in the world.

Get up right now and take a look in the mirror and really appreciate the goodness you see.  We are all changing the world one person at a time.  That person being ourselves.  Express your love and appreciation for you!  Because you are making a difference just by being you.

It was brought to my attention this weekend that the greatest service any of us can offer the world is that of living a conscious, loving life.  I also learned that I am responsible for the vibration I emit, therefore, I choose to be vibrationally high, emitting only loving, kindness.

Be Blessed and Be a Blessing


I Had a Dream

Published April 25, 2014 by Stuff My Brain Thinks

Well, it’s Friday!  I have not much to report.  My plan today is to go to work and do what I do best.  I’m praying for a nice day and weekend.  Nice enough to possibly get outside and enjoy some nature.  It’s been slow going so far.  We have been struggling to make it to 50 degrees, however today does look like it may make it to 59!  Woot Woot!


Last night I had a dream that I cheated on Roger.  I have never cheated in my life.  I mean, it has crossed my mind, because I have been cheated on and I guess I had wondered what the big deal was.  Was it the excitement of cheating that made it so alluring?  I must say though, in this dream, which played out like a well written movie, I cheated and then had to figure out how to hide the lie.  It was all very stressful.  I lied and lied and lied and it seemed never-ending.  I couldn’t stop until at the very end, through exhaustion, I really only wanted to come clean.  I wanted nothing more than to be free of the never-ending lies and deceitfulness.

Anyway, I walk away with this; I will never cheat.  Simply through the insight of my dream, I know that this is not something that would work well for my psyche.  In know way would that ever be worth it.  I have watched people cheat and often wondered why?  I guess it is different for everyone.  People make their choices based on their life circumstance, therefore I do not judge.  I can only say that I am glad I have never done it and equally glad that my subconscious mind allowed me to experience it without actually experiencing it.

Day 4: Finding Love

Published April 17, 2014 by Stuff My Brain Thinks

Once again, what can I say, today’s meditation was amazing.  It is entitled “Finding Love” and the centering thought for the day is “My love and compassion are within”.  It left me feeling loved, loved by my myself.  There is no greater love, than unconditional love for oneself.  There are times that I will become down on myself for something I may have said or done that could have been handled better.  From now on I will inhale with love and forgive myself as I would anyone else in my life.

Today I am going to do things a little differently.  Instead of going to the gym I am going to put on my headphones and some upbeat music and do some cooking and deep cleaning.  I am going to prepare some meals for a later time.  I miss cooking.  It’s been quite sometime since I have taken the time to enjoy it so this morning is the time.


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I have spent the better part of two hours accomplishing a ton.  I have cleaned my bathroom, cooked some meals and danced to Michael Jackson on Pandora.  I feel amazing.  What a spectacular morning.  Now, this weekend I don’t have to spend time doing these things.  Maybe, just maybe, the weather will allow us to get out to the nature center and enjoy some peaceful time in the woods.

Well I am off now to finish up chapter four in A New Earth.  I am a bit behind in my reading.  Sunday, Eckhart and Oprah will be reviewing Chapter five, so I better get on it.  ☺  I hope you all have a blessed day.

With much love

Michele ♥

Being a Part of the Ripple Effect

Published March 31, 2014 by Stuff My Brain Thinks

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After posting yesterdays blog Just a Little Writer’s Therapy it became glaringly apparent that the entire blog was written from my ego’s perspective.  My ego was hurt because it was unable to get its point across during a conversation with family about, wait for it….. religion.  I was obviously asking something from someone, that they were unable to give.  I do know, however, that I wasn’t trying to be superior in my opinions, I was only trying to gain a mutual sense of respect for our differences.

After watching Super Soul Sunday with Eckhart and Oprah yesterday, I realized that we can only take responsibility for our own awakening our own level of consciousness.  If we can be present with people who seem to be, in our opinion, deeply unconscious, and living in the grips of the ego, we can help them find a small crack to let the light in which, in turn, can start their own awakening process.  That’s it, simply being present will bring out the presents in someone else.

I am so new to all of this, but I truly believe that each and every one of us can help someone else awaken through our own awakening.  In our own transformation, we may be able to bring about a transformation in those around us, kind of like the ripple effect when dropping a pebble into a stream.  I can only say that I am happy with the way I handled the situation because I did not force my thoughts on anyone.  It is not weakness to walk away.  It is actually the ego’s need to defend, therefore, by not doing so, I was able to operate more from a state of consciousness.

I do not have to make other’s think the way that I think, I only have to respect the diverseness of the world and listen with consciousness.  It is in this way that I will be able to contribute the greater good of humanity.  I don’t know for certain what my purpose in my life is, I can only say that I feel strongly that learning and growing into the best person I can be and in turn sharing my lessons through the written word has to be part of it, because It is in doing so that I feel most alive.

May you all have a blessed day and  be a blessing to others.



Just a Little Writer’s Therapy

Published March 30, 2014 by Stuff My Brain Thinks

I have to get this off my chest.  I mean, if I can’t rant here, then where?  Have you ever wanted someone to simply understand and respect your point of view, only to have their point of view crammed down your throat?  How hard is it for people to have a mutual respect for differences?  I get that we all can’t agree all of the time.  I completely respect the fact that people will worship the way they see fit, but is it too much to ask to have that same respect and understanding returned?  I actually find myself agreeing or going along to lessen the conflict.  It’s not worth it to me to stand up for what I believe in when what I believe in is simply love, compassion and a respect for differences.

SpiritualityI don’t read the bible, nor do I go to church.  I spent six years in catholic school as a child and I cherish those memories.  I have a wonderful, personal relationship with God but I can’t say with certainty that I believe every story in the bible.  I know how stories go and these have been translated so many times that I cannot be 100% sure that they are true.  Does it really matter if I believe the stories in the bible?  I practice spirituality not religion.  Most of the bible is filled with violence and persecution, while my God is filled with love and compassion.  The two don’t mesh well for me.

I don’t calculate sins or point them out in those around me.  I don’t see people as lesser than I, if they choose to fall in love with someone of the same-sex.  I don’t look down on people who divorce or fall in love with someone outside of their marriage.  Why?  Because it is not my concern.  It is non of my business.  I can’t know the circumstances of their decisions and I don’t need to.  God loves us in spite of our short comings.  He knows every mistake we will make before we make it and we are forgiven in the same way.

Simply being a part of a church and reading the bible is not going to make you better than anyone else.  We are all God’s children.  No one is better than the other.  We are all damaged in our own way and we make our choices based on that damage.  If we are to live a God realized life, shouldn’t we, not only see ourselves in all people but find love for them as well?  Isn’t that what God would want?

I know that people can only give you what they’ve got, and that I should not take it personally if they cannot see my side of things or do not want to but it seems that this happens more in family than it does with strangers or acquaintances.  I wonder why that is?  Why family is not as accepting as we would like.  It makes it difficult.  If I were to be honest here, I would have to say that I worry more about what my family thinks of me than anyone in the world and they judge me the most.

I would love to say that when visiting my family, this subject is off the table, but I can’t.  It is a passion for certain family members, so from now on I will listen and respect their need to express it.  I will save my point of view for you all here.  I have always found it easier to state my thoughts and feelings through words on a page anyway.

I hope you all have a fabulous Sunday.  Be blessed and stay warm.  ☺



Some Rambling and Recipe Sharing

Published March 14, 2014 by Stuff My Brain Thinks

Hey!!  Good morning on this fine Friday!  Today is my turn for a half day.  Gotta love it.  I have decided to hit the gym this afternoon, instead of this morning.  This morning I decided I would whip up a little healthy baked spaghetti to share with you all.  It’s in the oven as we speak.  ☺

Anyway, this weekend should be a good time.  Rog has a little gig tomorrow night for a jamboree for a young girl battling cancer.  I can only hope they raise a lot of money to help with the costs her family has incurred due to this nasty disease.

On a happier note, it’s looking like the weather may be on an upswing around these parts.  Thank goodness, this winter has been brutal, and I have missed being outside something fierce.  Sometimes I absolutely amaze myself.  This from a girl who refused to go outside for most of her life, now longs for it.

I thank meditation for that, as well.  I believe that meditation helps to make us feel closer to nature, connected to it, if you will.  I can remember taking walks through the trails at the nature center last summer feeling so full on the inside.  I cannot wait to get back to that.

Anyway, I guess I am rambling this morning.  Sorry for that….  LOL….  So without further ado here is my recipe.

Baked Spaghetti 

1 Pound 93% lean Ground Turkey

Chopped: Mushrooms, Onion, Bell Pepper, Carrots, Avocado, and Broccoli

1 Serving of Whole Wheat Spaghetti noodles

1 1/2 Cups Spaghetti Sauce (be sure to check the sugar content)

Brown ground turkey with mushrooms and onions, then add the rest of the veggies and saute’ for about 10 minutes.

Mean while in another sauce pan boil the spaghetti noodles.

After turkey and veggie mixture is done, add sauce and simmer another 10 minutes, add finished pasta and toss.

Put in baking dish top with fat-free mozzarella and bake at 375 degrees for 20 minutes

Approximately 280 calories a serving (Makes 4 servings)

♥I am Perfectly Imperfect, and I Wouldn’t Have it Any Other Way ♥

Published March 10, 2014 by Stuff My Brain Thinks

It’s fabulous Monday.  I am so looking forward to getting back to work.  Spending quality time with my co-workers in my warm office is something I enjoy.  But first I have to get to the gym and give my body the movement it needs and deserves.  The weekend was awesome, not only did I get my kitchen painted, but I got out for some much-needed fun.  I got to dance and visit with a few people I haven’t seen in ages.  Life is good!

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Since getting back to meditating the right way for me I have felt such a calming come over my body.  I feel more in the now and much more connected to spirit.  I feel as though my mind is not reaching for tomorrow or over playing the past.  The urge to eat unnecessarily seems to have diminished as well.  From now on when people ask me how I have lost my weight I am going to give them the simple truth, I meditate!  That is it.

Meditation has been the reason for so many of the good choices I have made in my life in the past year and a half.  For some reason when I meditate I gravitate toward the right choice.  It’s easy and therefore do so without struggle.  I have spent a lot of time going from one thing to another just trying to figure out what works best for me, and it seems as though primordial meditation with soft music or sounds of nature is it.

I am so happy that I have lost the black and white attitude where one tiny mistake leads to months of mistakes.  I can only assume that the old adage that we get better with age in the reason I am making better choices for my life.  I have found that it is easier to accept me, flaws and all, rather than fight against who I am.  I am a perfectly imperfect human being who deserves to be loved and accepted for just that.  ☺

I guess I am off to get myself ready for the day.  May you all have the best day ever!!


Fake it Until You Make it!! ♥

Published January 26, 2014 by Stuff My Brain Thinks

first-love-yourself-1Getting ready to prep some meals for the week.  I have been up for hours.  I have meditated, showered, prettied up, and finished my audio book on The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz.  I’ve turned on the some music to get me in the grove.

My plan this fine morning is to make baked meatballs and marinara, turkey burger with mushrooms, onions and fat-free cheese, and probably some chicken salad.  I am on day 8 of living without sugar in my life.  I would say I am amazed, but I am not.  I knew I could do it.  I took the time to put together a solid strategy and went for it and success is most definitely in my future.

I am feeling particularly loved and adored this morning.  By whom, you ask?  By me, I reply 😉  It is not selfish to love oneself.  Selfishness is to be a burden on another and if you love yourself you cannot possibly be a burden to anyone.  You will be a blessing.

To use self-rejection is to be selfish, because if you loath yourself you are likely to cause pain to those that you love and that love you.  Decide today to look in the mirror and revel in the beauty before you.  Recognize the creativity within, and deeply love it.  Even if at first you don’t believe, fake it until you make it.

May you all have a blessed Sunday!

With much love ♥


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